Bexleyheath widow's body discovered in home she shared with son years after she died

Bexleyheath widow's body discovered in home she shared with son years after she died

Bexleyheath widow's body discovered in home she shared with son years after she died

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The skeleton of a Bexleyheath woman has been discovered in her front room 10 years after her death - because her live-in son failed to tell authorities.

Kent Police were called to a house in Stapleton Road on August 22 to reports of a dead body.

It is believed the corpse belonged to widow Doris Ames, who neighbours say died years ago.

Mrs Ames had been living with her youngest son, Martin, who recently passed away, aged 55, after a battle with cancer.

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The widow's remains were reportedly discovered by her eldest son, Alan, aged 61, who had visited the house following his brother's death.

Nicola Fitzgerald, who lives on Stapleton Road, said: "We haven't seen her for years, she lived there with a man but we assumed she'd died.

"We didn't really know her.

"It's very strange, very sad."

Terry Jarrett, aged 57, added: "I used to see her years ago - I only knew her to say 'hello' to but I hadn't seen her in about 10 years and thought she must have died.

"She lived with her son but like I said I just thought she had died."

A Met Police spokesman said: "The death is being treated as unexplained. The body is believed to have been at the address for a number of years.

"There has been no arrest."

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1:32pm Tue 26 Aug 14

mddbex82 says...

Shame on her son for taking so long to find her.
Shame on her son for taking so long to find her. mddbex82
  • Score: 40

2:17pm Tue 26 Aug 14

0147emz says...

Where on earth were the rest of her family? Why did it take so long for her other son to find her??? Poor woman! R maybe now she can RIP
Where on earth were the rest of her family? Why did it take so long for her other son to find her??? Poor woman! R maybe now she can RIP 0147emz
  • Score: 47

4:10pm Tue 26 Aug 14

DaveRen says...

a cardiac arrest maybe
a cardiac arrest maybe DaveRen
  • Score: -7

4:36pm Tue 26 Aug 14

Dean ambrose says...

lovely neighbours
lovely neighbours Dean ambrose
  • Score: 2

6:26pm Tue 26 Aug 14

cookster says...

Oh the family will be around now there's a house for sale.
Oh the family will be around now there's a house for sale. cookster
  • Score: 58

6:56pm Tue 26 Aug 14

Mr Goldfish says...

Well family's do split for the most strange reasons usually in a small family 1 person keeps the people together, probably the father in this case, he died and it all fell apart

sad really but its not uncommon

Agreed the vultures soon come when they smell money, nice size house in a reasonable area (just off Bedonwell Rd near the village)

My condolences to the son and the mother can finally rest in peace
Well family's do split for the most strange reasons usually in a small family 1 person keeps the people together, probably the father in this case, he died and it all fell apart sad really but its not uncommon Agreed the vultures soon come when they smell money, nice size house in a reasonable area (just off Bedonwell Rd near the village) My condolences to the son and the mother can finally rest in peace Mr Goldfish
  • Score: 24

9:50pm Tue 26 Aug 14

moggy80 says...

Yes, it is sad but who's to say she didn't treat her sons terribly, or give them up or something.
You just never know what happens behind closed doors, even if it all seems normal on the outside. Families are strange things!
Yes, it is sad but who's to say she didn't treat her sons terribly, or give them up or something. You just never know what happens behind closed doors, even if it all seems normal on the outside. Families are strange things! moggy80
  • Score: 18

10:49pm Tue 26 Aug 14

Brook says...

Surprising what you can find when searching for the stash
Surprising what you can find when searching for the stash Brook
  • Score: 7

8:41am Wed 27 Aug 14

kentlad says...

All seems a little strange and why did the eldest son not know his mother was dead? did he never visit or keep in touch? be interesting to know if the old girl had money in the bank and whether this had been touched while she was dead. Everyone assumed the old girl was dead but, did anyone actually ask the son where his mum was?
All seems a little strange and why did the eldest son not know his mother was dead? did he never visit or keep in touch? be interesting to know if the old girl had money in the bank and whether this had been touched while she was dead. Everyone assumed the old girl was dead but, did anyone actually ask the son where his mum was? kentlad
  • Score: 25

10:26am Wed 27 Aug 14

Gypo.Joe says...

I'll be interested to see how the vulture like estate agents market this 'des res.'

Would you live there, well would ya punk ?
I'll be interested to see how the vulture like estate agents market this 'des res.' Would you live there, well would ya punk ? Gypo.Joe
  • Score: -8

10:42am Wed 27 Aug 14

concerned.erith says...

kentlad wrote:
All seems a little strange and why did the eldest son not know his mother was dead? did he never visit or keep in touch? be interesting to know if the old girl had money in the bank and whether this had been touched while she was dead. Everyone assumed the old girl was dead but, did anyone actually ask the son where his mum was?
Not only that - was her pension still being claimed too??

It seems beyond belief that the other son didn't know his own mother was dead for 10 years - what a lovely close family!
[quote][p][bold]kentlad[/bold] wrote: All seems a little strange and why did the eldest son not know his mother was dead? did he never visit or keep in touch? be interesting to know if the old girl had money in the bank and whether this had been touched while she was dead. Everyone assumed the old girl was dead but, did anyone actually ask the son where his mum was?[/p][/quote]Not only that - was her pension still being claimed too?? It seems beyond belief that the other son didn't know his own mother was dead for 10 years - what a lovely close family! concerned.erith
  • Score: 13

2:19pm Wed 27 Aug 14

sarfflondonbird says...

mddbex82 wrote:
Shame on her son for taking so long to find her.
Maybe they all had a falling out, and due to the other son's death, this son has been left to pick up the pieces. It happens you know!
[quote][p][bold]mddbex82[/bold] wrote: Shame on her son for taking so long to find her.[/p][/quote]Maybe they all had a falling out, and due to the other son's death, this son has been left to pick up the pieces. It happens you know! sarfflondonbird
  • Score: 12

2:24pm Wed 27 Aug 14

sarfflondonbird says...

What I don't understand is if the son were living there as well up until his death, how did he get away with keeping the body of his mother there without anyone realising? Surely he must have had visitors as some stage over the past ten years? and surely there must have the smell of body decaying that surely must have been noticed by the next door neighbours in the beginning? What a to do eh?
What I don't understand is if the son were living there as well up until his death, how did he get away with keeping the body of his mother there without anyone realising? Surely he must have had visitors as some stage over the past ten years? and surely there must have the smell of body decaying that surely must have been noticed by the next door neighbours in the beginning? What a to do eh? sarfflondonbird
  • Score: 0

3:50pm Wed 27 Aug 14

ElsieH says...

So Martin sadly lost his life to cancer, then surely at some stage he would have been visited by a GP / district nurse / hospice team? I can only imagine that his tumours affected his mental health for this situation to have occurred. Poor Mrs Ames, hopefully now she can be put to rest.
So Martin sadly lost his life to cancer, then surely at some stage he would have been visited by a GP / district nurse / hospice team? I can only imagine that his tumours affected his mental health for this situation to have occurred. Poor Mrs Ames, hopefully now she can be put to rest. ElsieH
  • Score: 8

9:28pm Wed 27 Aug 14

kim64@tiscali.co.uk says...

so so sad,i have lived down this road all my life,and knew martin ,hope they both rip now x
so so sad,i have lived down this road all my life,and knew martin ,hope they both rip now x kim64@tiscali.co.uk
  • Score: 11

1:50am Thu 28 Aug 14

Mikey lad says...

This story sums up life in London perfectly. "I assumed she had died". Did you never open your mouth to ask? The next door neighbours - they never made contact all those years, even to ask after her? And as for the brother - well he will be judged ultimately. A sad tale of today's fractured society.
This story sums up life in London perfectly. "I assumed she had died". Did you never open your mouth to ask? The next door neighbours - they never made contact all those years, even to ask after her? And as for the brother - well he will be judged ultimately. A sad tale of today's fractured society. Mikey lad
  • Score: 2

10:40am Thu 28 Aug 14

sarfflondonbird says...

Mikey lad wrote:
This story sums up life in London perfectly. "I assumed she had died". Did you never open your mouth to ask? The next door neighbours - they never made contact all those years, even to ask after her? And as for the brother - well he will be judged ultimately. A sad tale of today's fractured society.
As said earlier, maybe the brothers/mother fell out years ago, and none of them had the sense to think that life's too short for this! It does happen within families, and maybe having all fallen out is the reason why the brother knew nothing about the mothers death or maybe even the brothers? I hope there is a fair judgement regarding this brother.
As for the neighbours, I can understand the situation. Maybe they have asked about the mother and been told by the son living there that she had died? Maybe suffering with cancer, the son may not have been in a good state of mind to allow people to know of this fact or wanted to. And we all know that it is a sin nowadays to enquire about neighbours as you only get labelled as a busy body and bloody nosy to boot, so a lot of folks no longer bother becoming the friendly next door neighbour.
On the other hand, I still cant get my head around the fact how the son managed to hide his mother for all those years, considering his own ill health and that fact that he must have needed help and home visits etc, how nothing was noticed?
[quote][p][bold]Mikey lad[/bold] wrote: This story sums up life in London perfectly. "I assumed she had died". Did you never open your mouth to ask? The next door neighbours - they never made contact all those years, even to ask after her? And as for the brother - well he will be judged ultimately. A sad tale of today's fractured society.[/p][/quote]As said earlier, maybe the brothers/mother fell out years ago, and none of them had the sense to think that life's too short for this! It does happen within families, and maybe having all fallen out is the reason why the brother knew nothing about the mothers death or maybe even the brothers? I hope there is a fair judgement regarding this brother. As for the neighbours, I can understand the situation. Maybe they have asked about the mother and been told by the son living there that she had died? Maybe suffering with cancer, the son may not have been in a good state of mind to allow people to know of this fact or wanted to. And we all know that it is a sin nowadays to enquire about neighbours as you only get labelled as a busy body and bloody nosy to boot, so a lot of folks no longer bother becoming the friendly next door neighbour. On the other hand, I still cant get my head around the fact how the son managed to hide his mother for all those years, considering his own ill health and that fact that he must have needed help and home visits etc, how nothing was noticed? sarfflondonbird
  • Score: -25

12:01pm Thu 28 Aug 14

concerned.erith says...

kim64@tiscali.co.uk wrote:
so so sad,i have lived down this road all my life,and knew martin ,hope they both rip now x
Nice sentiment, but I can't help wondering if you have lived in thie road all yourr life and knew the family well didn't you notice there was no funeral after the mother had died?

Also, surely as Martin was obviously diagnosed with cancer, and would have had varoius heatlh visitors - why the hell wasn't this picked up by them. This needs to be investigated.

Where I live we all look out for eachother and when any of us have a problem we are there to support eachother.
[quote][p][bold]kim64@tiscali.co.uk[/bold] wrote: so so sad,i have lived down this road all my life,and knew martin ,hope they both rip now x[/p][/quote]Nice sentiment, but I can't help wondering if you have lived in thie road all yourr life and knew the family well didn't you notice there was no funeral after the mother had died? Also, surely as Martin was obviously diagnosed with cancer, and would have had varoius heatlh visitors - why the hell wasn't this picked up by them. This needs to be investigated. Where I live we all look out for eachother and when any of us have a problem we are there to support eachother. concerned.erith
  • Score: 4

11:32am Fri 29 Aug 14

mumcabs says...

Obviously her other son never bothered to try to visit his mum. That is so terribly sad. Shouldn't think he feels too guilty - he is probably looking forward to spending the proceeds from the sale of the house !
Obviously her other son never bothered to try to visit his mum. That is so terribly sad. Shouldn't think he feels too guilty - he is probably looking forward to spending the proceeds from the sale of the house ! mumcabs
  • Score: -12

1:34am Sat 30 Aug 14

JeffTheJellyfish says...

My next door neighbor passed away and we didn't know until 2 months later when we hadn't seen her for awhile. She had a family arguement and wasn't in contact with her children, as me and my parents lived next door we became close with her and didn't know until she had been dead in the house for about 2 months.
It's something that happens and you never know what could be happening behind close doors, we assumed she had gone away with a friend (which she use to do every so often) but sadly she hadn't and was had sadly passed away and we didn't know until 2 months later, this is when her family got involved, not because of the money but because they realised how silly the family arguement had got and that now they had lost their mother and didn't get to say everything they could have until the funeral which was sad because they couldn't hear her voice or have her reply to them
My next door neighbor passed away and we didn't know until 2 months later when we hadn't seen her for awhile. She had a family arguement and wasn't in contact with her children, as me and my parents lived next door we became close with her and didn't know until she had been dead in the house for about 2 months. It's something that happens and you never know what could be happening behind close doors, we assumed she had gone away with a friend (which she use to do every so often) but sadly she hadn't and was had sadly passed away and we didn't know until 2 months later, this is when her family got involved, not because of the money but because they realised how silly the family arguement had got and that now they had lost their mother and didn't get to say everything they could have until the funeral which was sad because they couldn't hear her voice or have her reply to them JeffTheJellyfish
  • Score: 12

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